love, me

February 22, 2011

A couple posts back, I mentioned my friend Courtney’s 30×30 project. I was deliberately brief in my description of the project, preferring to keep things short, sweet and neat, but then I read this insightful article and allowed myself to wonder if I’ve been keeping too far of a distance between me and these posts.

Just to clarify, I still have no desire to turn this into anything more than a studio/design/inspiration blog: I don’t want to post thousands of self portraits, or ramble on incessantly about the minutiae of my day, or describe in great detail the all emotions I cycle through. But I understand that context – and its ability to found a personal connection between a writer and their readership – is important in a blog. The trick is to find a balance between context and over-sharing.

For the most part, I’ve tried to err on the side of caution. I avoid posting anything too personal because I honestly worry that prattling on about my life is going to bore people to death. I mean, who am to think my life is worth reading about, right?

This isn’t necessarily a self-esteem issue. The high value placed on humility here in Asia is certainly something that has shaped my perspective, though perhaps not necessarily always for the best. While my first instinct is always to avoid personal commentary on each project so as to not sound self-important, I need to accept that my vision and voice matter to my business and blog. Moreover, I need to accept that this way of thinking isn’t about being arrogant, it’s simply about owning my life and the person I am.

That’s where the 30×30 project comes in. For the next 30 days, I will be challenging the fundamentals of my Asian upbringing to make an unabashedly self-affirmative statement each day. The theme of this challenge was actually my suggestion, one that initially felt somewhat reckless but now feels almost serendipitous. Though I’m still not prepared to turn this blog into an online personal diary, I have decided I’m going to try to work in a little more context, and a little more of myself.

Please consider this a long-winded invitation to join me in some healthy self-love as the 30×30 challenge gets going. We all know at least one person who just doesn’t realize how amazing they are, and even if you aren’t ready to admit that that person is you, I hope you’ll share this with someone who could use a reminder to appreciate themselves a bit more. You can read my daily Facebook updates on the project’s main page.

Photo from Hippy Hippy Chic – not of me, of course. I’m not sure if I’m ready to cross that line yet, but I’m shuffling ever closer.